Why is it so hard to make sure your kids have a good self esteem? No matter what I say or do, my kids love to insert negative comments about themselves in conversation.
yesterday, My five year old started crying because she “was too dumb to do anything right.” i asked why she felt that way and she said she kept getting in trouble fo doing stupid things. My answer of “well, stop doing stupid things and you won’t be stupid,” didn’t seem to help her. Then I tried the caring mother tactic and said “Honey, you are not stupid, you just sometimes make choices that get you in trouble or hurt.” The most amazing part was her very intelligent, but self defeating reply of “but doesn’t that make me dumb, when I do thing to hurt myself?”
Not wanting to answer yes,I quickly changed the subject to school and asked if she was looking forward to kindergarten. God has no pity on parents though and her older sister walked in and said “She can’t go to kindergarten, she is too dumb cause she still sucks her thumb.”
This started a bunch of name calling and crying which I stopped with a phrase that proves my kids aren’t too stupid: “The next girl that calls someone a name gets their lips tied to their ears!!!
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